The Do’s and Don’ts of Coming Out: A Guide to Sharing Your Truth

Coming out refers to the process that people who are LGBTQ+ go through as they work to accept their sexual orientation or gender identity and share that identity openly with other people. It is a very courageous thing to do, and it is extremely personal and different for everyone. 

Coming out is a personal decision that has no guidebook. There’s no one right way to come out. Your emotions when coming out may range from scared and anxious to elated and relieved. It can feel better to be open and honest about your sexual orientation than to hide it, but there are many factors to consider before coming out. Each person should consider their own situation when thinking about coming out. Take time to think about what’s right for you.

Here are things to keep in mind when you’re thinking of coming out:

Trust Your Gut

Don’t feel pressured to come out due to your friends or circumstances. Coming out is a gradual process that varies from person to person. While you may want to be honest about your identity, you must prioritize your safety. If there is a risk of physical harm or being kicked out of your home, it’s best not to share your identity. Instead, seek help and guidance by calling helplines like the LGBT National Youth Talkline, where you can receive advice and support tailored to your specific situation.

Weigh all the Possibilities

It’s important to ask yourself some questions before deciding to come out: Will coming out make my life easier or more difficult? Is it worth it? 

Let Go of Expectations

It’s important to be aware that when you come out to people, their reactions might not be what you anticipate. It’s likely that some relationships will take time to settle back to their previous state and some may change permanently. Even the most supportive people in your life may need time to adjust to your news. Remember that friends and family members may need time to get used to the situation.

Don’t Give In To Peer Pressure

The decision to come out is entirely yours and nobody else’s. Regardless of whether others around you have already come out or if you have come out to some but not to others, you have complete control over when, how, and to whom you choose to reveal your true self.

Remember: Coming Out is a Lifelong Process

Coming out is a continuous process that lasts a lifetime. If you decide to come out, it is important to remember that you may have to do it many times throughout your life. As you go through life, you will make new friends, meet new partners, and grow your chosen family. It might become easier as you become more confident and as society moves towards greater acceptance of LGBTQ+ people, but sometimes it may be as scary as the first time. Take time to think about what’s right for you.